Pulchritude

I’m tall, short, I’m slim, fat, I’m fair, dark I’m quiet; I talk, I’m timid, blunt I’m feisty, gentle Who and what do I need to be before you accept me and be comfortable with me without judging me Knowing a bit of a whole does not mean you understand the whole I used to like blue; I don’t like it anymore  I used to love red; I don’t love it anymore I used to hate black; I don’t hate it anymore Do you have to be disappointed because I fail to match your description of me? Accept the change you get every time you get it I thought we all know that ‘change is the only constant thing in life’? I’m only reminding you peradventure you forgot Don’t judge Understand both parts of the coin before you conclude your research and assume that you know. Free me to be me, the being that was created uniquely by the Maker Himself. I’m just human, and I’ve got flaws. Jy

There is nothing with a beginning that has no end. When it begins, it is fresh; it rejuvenates, it brings  life, you become proud of yourself for starting a new thing. The middle of the start can be in two ways- it can drag, or fly. Sometimes, the drag or flying may have nothing to do with your input. No matter what comes, decide to stay high up and keep the flag flying Stay away from bad vibes or bad energy Reinvent, re-stategize, restart and just do something that keeps you moving irrespective of what your sweet beginning has become. That struggle starts with you in the middle,  It still requires you to make it work  Just remember, everything that has a beginning must surely have an end Always remember that life does not stop anyone who does not know how to stop,  The earth or whatever powers, can't stop you, if you do not believe that it can stop you. Don't give up!

Long gone are the days when children could really play and be children. Long gone are the days when adults see children as children and not as an object that should be abused emotionally or psychologically. Long gone are the days when husband work tirelessly, while their wives stayed at home to nurse, groom and mould values and good characters into their children. Long gone are the days when love and marriage was organized by families of prospective spouse(s). Long gone are the days; when a man truly loves one woman and sticks to her till death do them part. Long gone are the days when men needed/had too many wives to bear children in other to help out on the farm in Africa. Long gone are the days when uncles could gladly bath and dress a niece without the fear of actual rape. Long gone are the days when female children were 100% safe to be left with their fathers. Long gone are the days, when I was a child and totally naïve and unable to boldly expres...

Let’s feel, let’s pray, let’s be silent Feel it, savour it, smell it, live it but, Do not let it get to your depth Wade through it like you would in a shallow pool Not by your strength though, by a Greater being who knows more about the way you wish to navigate Stretch out but, do not break; let the stretch teach you the conduit of your body And what the physiological construct of your body can take Conserve yet, pick the right recipe The tasting of the pudding they say; is in the eating Open up the right channels for a grip of life’s best Be there, be here, be present in the moment because the Future cannot be made if there is no today Hold on to what you know best and how well you know how to… Feel blessed, because you are blessed By nature, gift of light for day and darkness for dusk Your maker knows and understands it all… Let’s feel, let’s pray, let’s be silent… JW

Lately, it just seen like walls are crumbling around all We keep hearing of the dead of a person here and there Loved ones are lost, loved ones are being kidnapped, acquaintances are being taken away without notice. That leaves a lot of question to our mind to comprehend. We really do not feel the blow until the happening is close to home Then, we begin to understand the pain that ensue losing a loved one. I have lost a colleague, and I have also lost a friend in a space of a very short time... The tears in our eye, the sorrow in our hearts is not just because they are gone off-course, people go away from a particular location and move to another, In such situation; we have the hope of seeing again, and even when we do not see them again, we are always glad they are alive and doing well wherever they are...                                                 ...

Deceit Kills My world looks blink, I'm empty in a way I can't express, There is confusion all around I need to detangle I don't like the feel of living in a web, I desire clarity on things around me. It feels beclouded and unreal, unsure with you.  I don't know the direction,  Even if I know the direction; I'm not sure I  want to thread the road... Tears in my eyes, can't control Why it is the way it is, I don't know,  Be real, Be honest,  Be brutal if you have to,  Be witty and wild if you need to; Be excited because you deserve to One thing you should never be Is deceiving... Deceit kills the soul, and makes trust a difficult commodity when sort for by the deceiver... Live a life devoid of deceit. @JaneyCares

When there is a roadblock on every direction you desire to walk through, you strive to make it walkable but it keeps proving difficult. As a result of not being able to remove the blockage, you beat up yourself, become angry and feel so disappointed.  Little did you know that the universe and the Maker of all things is unequivocally working in your favour to keep you away from impending danger. Don’t strive too hard to force open things that are obviously hard to move; they will move because your body will always go for what your mind sees, desire or aspire to get. You will get it but, the result may or may not be favourable. Be mindful of what you push too hard to make happen. Listen carefully to the voice that speaks to you before you go ahead… #Listen   Janey

Standing in a position reduces the rate of speed and the distance that would have been covered either technically or hypothetically. A standing water smell terribly but the river does not. It remains fresh and bubbly because it keeps moving.  This is the same with the life we live, holding back yourself from thinking through things and doing what you have thought through will only deny you the opportunity to attain and have what you so desire.  Never, ever give up your passion for what wears you out. The aftermath of not pursuing your passion can lead to a lifetime regrets. 

A lot happened in a very short time... How do I explain this? I want to explain but I can't bring myself to it. I tried a diplomatic attempt yet the reasons were not coming out right because they all sounded wrong. Would it have been possible to avoid it? Would it? Still in dilemma about the answer to the questions... I look back now and know that it could have been avoided, it went ahead to hurt, because you allowed it, I allowed it and while at it; it felt so good yet the end result did not worth all the efforts put into it, we started with the blame game, just when I was about to tell how it all happened because it was beginning to look like it was all my fault*** I woke up! Oh! it was but  just a dream... #LingeringThought Janey

Preparedness help to accentuate every necessary item in the right proportion. Proportioning, help to determine who gets what based on how effective they have being. Being, make the most of what they get where they get it; to make meaning of the essence of life. Life, in itself is a word that needs a lot of ingredient to attain a level of being proportioned and prepared for whatever is coming.  Hence, we apportion things based on priorities and prepare ourselves based on what we have prioritize to achieve the utmost depending on our perspective and perception about greatness in general. #Thinking in order helps you not to think wrongly... Janey

Waking up on Saturday morning, it was fun to go out and meet what the day would feel and how it was going to be. On the busy road and express of Ibadan, 'I dodged and try to escape lots of potholes', it was possible to move away from some, others couldn't be escaped. Finally, I got into the main road that seem free for a moment; only to notice that I was not the only one trying to get free and move to a clearer part. The difference about the scenario was; ‘some successfully made it through while some did not’. *** Though, I was not a witness to the accident but it was so painful to see the lifeless body beside the accidented vehicles on the express. She looked very industrious. She sure left the house early (it was just 6:50.am) to meet up with the market that sells fresh and cheap foodstuffs that she probably deals in.  She must have said to her naighbour and friend  words like 'Ekaaro iya Sukura',(iya Sukura, good morning) 'mofe losi oja...

Love is universal, equivocal and speaks volume even without a word. It  melts, mold, and can break a soul. I want to say more about  it but it is requesting and demanding the validity and essence of interpretation. Where did love go when your love fade? Where did it go at that moment when you hate? Where did love go, when siblings fight and kill each other. This brings me to say that, the true definition of a word is in the meaning we give to it but love bets to be different in this situation... Love is universal...

It started like it was not going to be real It felt so far away that hopes faded and reality became unsure I thought it will be so far but, here it is... My desires, plans and goals came together but not in totality I expected to have more time to realize  the needful only to know that the acquired were the needful So much was put into the beginning, it yields its share of the bountifulness yet it seem not enough How I got this far is a mystery I can't really understand Living each seconds, minutes, hours becoming days Days turning to weeks, weeks to months and months rolling on to December, I choose to welcome a month that close the face of every year A month that makes summation reasonable and needful to do... It comes with merriment, joy and lots of fun It reminds humanity that we should celebrate no matter what In as much as we are still living, December is here to remind us of Grace enjoyed... If by now you didn't get the desired, maybe, just maybe you were ...

The way we think, behave and act sometimes often come from our upbringing and past experiences. Doing things a certain way which may be difficult or weird for others to comprehend, does not mean those things are done wrongly or that they are wrong, it only means the person is only doing it the best way he/she knows how to. Therefore, it is expedient that we shouldn’t judge people instantly and conclusively based on the little surface qualities that we know or see about them; because, every man or woman has something that makes him/her into what they are today and the final stage is what others see at first glance. Try to cut that person, yes that guy or girl a slack… #DontBeTooQuickToJudge (culled from jadejaney.wordpress.com)

Today, April 22, 2015, precisely eleven days(11) to my birthday (May 4), there is this feeling of excitement that wells inside of me like it used to be when I was just a little kid and as a teenager because, such periods usually bring excitements, good surprises, gifts and fun. Even when there is no physical gift, there’s usually the feel of love and being loved. I feel like something good is on the way, it feels like it’s going to be alright and better now and in the years to come. I just feel so sure of what I don’t even know.   My mind is like a clean slate ready to receive and savour the good that is coming. God! It’s just so true and sure, it's as if I can feel and touch it. I am really hoping it’s going to be a surprise that will sweep me off my feet to the topmost top. The usual me, wouldn’t write openly about the way I feel but I can’t help but express this feeling in writing so that I can remember and keep this in mind when whatever it is eventu...

Aside the fact that citizens complain that the government in power do not care about their well-being. Individuals and private organizations seem to make the situation worse most times. Some organizations deprive their workers the privilege to safety and security, imagine an organization almost willing to risk the lives of employees on a day like; 'election day', where there will definitely be restriction of movements, yet they are willing to ask the workers to be at work. Most times workers are denied national holiday(s) all in the name of being termed as a very 'hard working' society/organization. There are so many height of deprivation in this nation caused by individuals in power,(in their world) yet one wonders how and why the same set of people complain about the government (bigger power) when the same quantity of cruelty is measured to them.#JustThinking

I get hit, and I feel pain…why? I eat and drink too much, I still  feel pain… why? I exercise and I trim my body to be fit, yet it comes with pain… why? I give my best to make things work and be better, but I get criticized… why? I fail, I hear things like… “You’re too lazy”…why? I succeed, I still hear people say things like… “Is she the only one?”… but why? The reason why there is ‘why’ is why ‘I’, ‘you’, ‘we’ are still living… Quit asking ‘Why’ and live right not minding what price you will have to pay for doing so… From me to you, Janey

The essence of living is mostly the ability to feel and sense pain even in the absence of it, remember that it  doesn't  have to be physical pain  alone.  Walking through the expanse of humanity help to give us the reason and ability to live in peace with others. Taking a closer look around, I have come to  realize  that people like to be told the truth, adored and respected, yet most people can’t afford to do same to others. Friends, in life, will always disappoint you and some will even deny or leave you when you need them most but remember that no matter how heavy the rain may be, the earth is always able to accept, contain and sip it up… that applies to each and every one of us, trials and troubles may be in sight, but you are stronger than what you think, you can handle the situation by the help from above. Wait fervently; it’s just a matter of time…

In a country where we were once called “The happiest people on earth”, now it cannot be said of Nigeria to be the most happiest as the situation is no longer the same. So much killing and shedding of innocent blood, deleting the future in order to have no one to take over the affair of the nation; so much political unrest and corruption. Kidnapping is now a normal thing to some people who do not want to labour for legitimate wealth. Some do it all because off spite and hatred for peace and tranquility or is it because they want to force some form of religion on everyone? The abduction of more than two hundred (200) secondary girls in the Northern part of the country is so overwhelming, I wonder how their parents are faring without their daughters by their side, to some parents-the girl taken could be an only child, to some; all they have is what the abductors have taken.  *Where are we going in this land? This is really something that is hard to be silent about…* What is t...